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The Line Between Self-care and Self-absorption

maryjanewhatsername

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I see a ton of self-care tweets, Instagram accounts, and Pinterest tips these days and that is awesome - little things to keep a positive frame of mind are awesome! But when does it cross the line into snotty, self-obsession that lacks empathy? 

Self-care: Hygeine, Beauty, and Safe-Sex Tips 

I see a lot of "beauty hacks" and little words of advice for anything from clearer skin to safe sex education to extending the longevity of perfumes. These are all fantastic and often are household items that can help save money. I live for these positive ideas that help with self-esteem and overall well being. 

Self-absorption: Justifying Bitchy/Selfish/Rude Behavior

I get it - we can all have an attitude and say or do things we regret when we feel defensive. But normalizing cold, stand-offish behavior is not gratifying and doesn't have any value for self-care. 

What I mean by this kind of behavior is encouraging others to be heartless, angry, or on attack-mode at a constant. 

On one "self-care" Twitter account I saw them encouraging others to not give second chances, not to trust others, and to "remember only you got you." This just simply isn't a healthy way to live and interact with others. It creates a very "me versus everyone" outlook which can destroy relationships and damage a person's self worth. Most people choose this kind of outlook based upon past heartaches and experiences. 

It's always important to remember that your past does not define you and that not everyone in this world is out to get you. With that being said, it's still a good idea to be cautious with what aspects of your life you share with others. 

Self-care: Sharing Coping Mechanisms, Relaxation Techniques, and Life Advice

It is amazing when someone else gives you a little tip to help ease anxiety, depression, and stress from everyday life or chronic conditions. It is a balance of promoting positive thinking with an overall healthy mental attitude. 

Little social cues, breathing exercises, and biochemical remedies for anxiety are wonderful things I've learned on the internet to help with stress. Encouraging strong relationships, time for oneself, and subtle changes in habits can really go a long way for helping someone through hard times without losing empathy and compassion for others. 

**DISCLAIMER: this is just my opinion. I would love open discussion on this topic to hear everyone else's thoughts!!**

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this!! i totally agree with you.

say it louder for the people in the back :))

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I agree to a point. I love that people are talking about how important self-care is especially mental health self care. The positive effects to this movement and talk opens up a dialogue that needs to be heard and had. 

Anything- any topic can and will be taken too far. I mean it is social media so people are going to take the self-care to narcissistic level because these are where narcissistic people thrive and have an audience. 

Like the zero fucks given idea can literally be taken to the extreme  and make a person think it's okay to be a sociopath-when the original idea was to not care what others think of reaching your hopes and dreams and don't let society put you in a box etc.  

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9 minutes ago, Overjoyyed said:

I agree to a point. I love that people are talking about how important self-care is especially mental health self care. The positive effects to this movement and talk opens up a dialogue that needs to be heard and had. 

Anything- any topic can and will be taken too far. I mean it is social media so people are going to take the self-care to narcissistic level because these are where narcissistic people thrive and have an audience. 

Like the zero fucks given idea can literally be taken to the extreme  and make a person think it's okay to be a sociopath-when the original idea was to not care what others think of reaching your hopes and dreams and don't let society put you in a box etc.  

^^^ THIS RIGHT HERE. You are so right dude. I agree legit anything can be taken overboard. and THANK U for opening the dialogue on this post ❤️ love it ❤️ 

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