Okay, so this is my first blog post, I guess. I would do some form of formal introduction, but in my opinion, there is no way for me to introduce myself without seeming incredibly pretentious...so, we'll just start off with this.
The programme in which I am enrolled in at University requires me to learn about a lot of things like marginalization, oppression, political policies, counselling, etc. Although we have to learn about a lot of topics, there are still females in my classes who have to relate everything back to the same topic...
We do discuss feminism a lot in my programme, as it is one of the main things we focus on. I've had to learn about things from every form of feminism, to vagina highlighters. If you knew me, you'd know that every time we get to this unit of feminism, I want to rip my hair out.
As if I couldn't be any more irritated, I was going over my notes on this topic for the final exam, and caught the term "The Political Lesbian" within my notes. Forgetting this term completely, I reread the whole chapter and was absolutely disgusted by what I read.
This term is a term used by Lesbian Feminism/Feminists. Lesbian Feminism focusses on dismantling heteronormativity (which I actually do support), combating patriarchy, and destroying gender roles. Their main claim is that cis-men who are in heterosexual relationships are primarily only interested in a woman for sex, a "trophy", or for any other sexual purposes. They also claim that cis-women in heterosexual relationships rely on men solely for safety, security, comfort, and economic stability.
Lesbian Feminism believes a main way we can prevent these 'needs' and 'interests' from happening is targeting heteronormativity and cisnormativity in the media and such. I don't necessarily have an issue with this, but it's the next part that literally sickens me...
Since feminists of this category are known to be somewhat radical (although, there is a separate form of feminism called 'Radical Feminism'), many women have joined the movement of 'The Political Lesbian'.
Cis-women who are heterosexual (attracted to men 100%) refuse to be with a man sexually and relationship wise because they do not want to 'feed into their sexual cravings' and 'fuel their ego, which fuels patriarchy'. Since these women need their sexual needs fulfilled as well, they will force themselves to become lesbian. This doesn't mean solely hooking up with women who are also Political Lesbian's, or finding bisexual women or one-night-flings or whatever. These women are forcing homosexual relationships with other women who don't know that these women are just doing this as some sort of point against men.
This angers me to no end and this is exactly why some people don't take gay rights seriously; a lot of people say that homosexuals fake it, or choose to be gay/lesbian. In my opinion, these feminists aren't making any positive changes at all, but are instead insulting people of the LGBTQ community, a community which they claim to be supporting 150%. The whole movement is being contradicted by the radical women who think violating their own sexual beliefs and desires will do anything to change society. They are eventually going to break it off with these women they are leading on, and those women will have broken hearts and feel completely used. I don't see why damaging people who are already oppressed isn't being taken into consideration into these women's very narrow, irrational, and unrealistic minds. If they want to be taken seriously, perhaps they should use some logic and think of ways to make the changes they want in ways which don't harm anyone.
Anyways, sorry about that rant. I honestly could go on and on about this, but I'm going to stop here. Thanks to anyone who read this. I'll probably post something else when I come home from work.
Let me know what you think.