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RIP Dad

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My dad had a massive heart attack at work on Friday. Luckily his "work" was to drive a portable MRI machine around to hospitals who don't have their own. A nurse saw him slumped over in his truck and immediately started CPR. They had to shock him 3-4 times before they got any sort of heart beat, but it took 20 minutes to do so. He was flown to a different hospital where they tried a new procedure on him that involves heavy sedation, cooling the body to 33 C, and then re-warming it very slowly. This is practiced a lot overseas and is used to reduce the chance of brain damage.

Today, as they were warming him back up, his blood pressure and heart beat became very irregular. He suffered another heart attack and after receiving 9 more shocks, he was unable to be fully revived. We were told that with all his body had gone through, his value of life would most likely be nothing if he ever were to come to. He had told me so many times that if we let him live that way, he would haunt us, so we decided to let him go. He passed quickly and in his sleep early this morning.

He was such a character and could make instant friends (or enemies…there is a reason I called him Captain Asshole!) with anyone he met. He’s the reason I have such a fucked-up sense of humor, but also the quick temper that caused us to fight like crazy. I’m going to miss debating with him about stories on the news and all of our weird little inside jokes. I would give anything in the world if only I could have just one more hour with him. He could teach me how to flip pancakes bigger than your head (this really was a talent of his and those pancakes were the best in the world) and we'd eat them while watching CSI and singing along with the theme song. That and one last hug.

In the end, he was the bringer of his own downfall; not taking his medication (he’d had 2 previous heart attacks) and refusing to stop smoking. He liked to say that everyone has to die and that he was going to do what he wanted even if it cut the length of his life in half. I know that I should be pissed at him, but I just can’t find it in myself. He was only 56 years old…turning 57 in 2 weeks. It still doesn't seem real to me. He always called us throughout the day and every time the phone rings, I keep thinking he'll be on the other end.

I was looking through an old album for pictures to use during his funeral and I found the one posted here. It's from 1987 and I'm 5 years old. I miss him so much.

TL;DR: I know it’s your life and you‘re free to ruin it, but please think of those who love you first.


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I'm so sorry. Losing a parent is one of the hardest things in the world, my dad passed away three years ago next month and it's still hard to really grasp sometimes. I hope your dad's at peace now. Hugs.

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*hugs*

I hope your Dad is at peace. And I hope you and your family find some in memories of him.

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I'm so sorry for your loss :hug: May your dad rest in peace and may you, your family and all that were close to him keep a hold of the good times shared.

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RIP. What a handsome man! Sorry for your loss; know that GDC is here for you! <3

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I'm so sorry for your loss. May your dad rest in peace and best wishes to you and your family. :hug:

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I am so sorry for your loss. I, too, lost my dad and have always wished for one last hug. :hug: Here's one from me (which I'll give you in person next month). I'm always around if you ever need/want to talk.

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:( I'm so sorry for your loss! RIP

*hugs*

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I'm so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family. RIP <3

:hug:

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My deepest and most sincere condolences. I can't imagine what it's like to lose a parent, but I'm sure he loved you very much despite the fact that he didn't always behave that way. He's very lucky to have had a child like you.

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I'm extremely sad to hear this. Know that I'll be sending you happy thoughts. That's a beautiful picture, by the way.

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Jeez you guys...I'm going to start crying again. Thank you for all your kind words. He definitely left us with a lifetime of great memories and hilarious pictures.

I'm so sorry. Losing a parent is one of the hardest things in the world, my dad passed away three years ago next month and it's still hard to really grasp sometimes. I hope your dad's at peace now. Hugs.

I've lost so many other family members and none of them come close to how this feels. I'm sorry for your loss and who knows, maybe our dads are having a drink together. :lol:

I am so sorry for your loss. I, too, lost my dad and have always wished for one last hug. :hug: Here's one from me (which I'll give you in person next month). I'm always around if you ever need/want to talk.

:hug: And you are totally getting a big one back from me! Sorry ahead of time if I break a rib...

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I am so sorry for your loss :( I'm really wishing the best for you and your family, even though you have hard times ahead. Your father's life has ended, yes, but he'll still live through your memories, love and heart. *massivehug*

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:hug: I'm sorry for your loss :( Keep strong, he'll still be with you in your heart

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So sorry for your loss :hug:

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So sorry for your loss :( We're always here for you. He'll stay in your memory forever. Stay Strong :hug:

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RIP :( So sorry for your loss :hug:

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My father passed away in 2001 and it was the most difficult thing I have EVER been through in my life. Watching him succomb to cancer over a 2 month period of time was awful. Every day he looked worse. I LITERALLY thought I was going insane. I had bouts of anger, crying, tantrums, and I realized this was actually all normal.

You will go through the lowest of low emotions in this time, but just know that it's okay to be sad. There will be times that you will almost "forget" that he's gone when you think "Oh I have to tell Dad that...." and then realize you can't.

But even though I was 24 when he died, I wasn't truly "grown up" until he died. I learned that if I could get through that time, I could get through ANYTHING and I didn't rely on drugs, alcohol, or even therapy. It made me a stronger person and really turned me into a grown up per se.

THere are times, even 12 years later, that I could think about him and immediately start crying. But think of the Lion King when Simba looks into the reflection....

"He Lives In You"

That's how you keep him alive forever.

:)

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R.I.P I'm sorry for your loss, allways stay strong.

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