Hi, recently ive had to start thinking about my future as i just about to leave 6th form college. I always thought i wanted to go into computing cos its the one thing im good at...now im starting to change my mind. i keep going on and off the idea. I dont know what i want to be really. Part of me wants to go into computing, part of me doesnt wanna be stuck in an office and wants to get out there! I have had all sorts of weird ideas, like being a police officer, a carer. I'm really stuck. It feels like an identity crises.

Is anyone else feeling like this at the moment. What should i do, take time out to decide? Go ahead with my original plans for a while? Help.

I think how I'd like to grow up and be able to have some level of freedom but then I think about it and I get scared. What will happen to me? It's a frightening concept.
I think you need time to think. Obviously you're still not certain. Take some time to consider your life. But whatever you do, don't rush into things.

it's just normal to change your mind when you grow up..same happened to me..take your time to think about it and you'll figure out what you really want

I was in this situation once but i just took my time think and decide on my abilities and special skills i have and decided that i would be better doin somethin that needed more of these skills

I'm having same kind of thoughts. It's time to apply to school and I can't decide what I want. I have no idea what I wanna do for the rest of my life. I love english, so it has to have something to do with it. I'm a bit scared that I won't accepted in any school. I think what I need is to think what I feel right now. Mostly I just need to calm down and think positively.

And I think that you should also think what you really want. What do you think that you want to do for the rest of your life. Something you can't think of getting bored at. Before you leave any school think it through couple of times. Don't rush, just take your time.

I can't give you better advice, sorry. Hopefully you will soon find out what you want to do with your life.

Hell yeah! I agree with you and dammit.

I'm just leaving 6th form (or high school or whatever) myself which is stressful and scary. I have applied to 3 different schools but I'm not sure if that's what I wanna do. Aargh.

If you can't 'get out there' when you're eighteen, when can you? Do it; take some time out, travel or do lesser jobs that give you more time and freedom. Get drunk, sleep in, don't do your laundry and dress from your bedroom floor, get laid, follow a band round on tour, work in a vineyard and break your back, get your shit together look-wise, get an attitude, leave the country.
Be young, and know what that feels like from the top of your head to the tip of your toes, and all the really interesting places in between; find someone who'll wake up all the interesting places in between.
Get pierced, get a tattoo, dye your hair at least once, and if you don't scare someone with your appearance at least once, you're missing out.
Work for a theatre company - there's no money, but the parties are great.
Try things out. The advice is 'just say no' - say 'yes' once in a while.
Computing. An office. You might as well be dead.


Lastly, don't listen to me - I'm a fucking terrible example; but I've done most of the above, with some variations that are kind of personal, and I can recommend it.
This is your life on holiday!

Not if Frank the bunny's leading my way.

yes, a bit, so I generally prefer not to think about future..you know, "carpe diem"..but when I will have to take some important decisions for my life, I will be in the panic..

no, i love planning my future:)

I'm in the same situation, and I'm only 13!

I am waaaaay to stressed

at my age the only thing about the future that scares me is how kids like y'all and my own kids will handle it. you're going to have some major shit to deal with...hopefully, we've raised another awesome generation. by the looks of my own sons, who are all grown up now, it seems we just might have done so. remember, you take on the fights you have a good chance of winning, and cope with the rest until you can win those too. basically, just keep being intelligent, and all of you are fairly intelligent and will get better with time, and don't give up! every generation thinks they have the worst to contend with, somehow it all seems to work out. the british, scots and americans are pretty awesome at sorting things out. the south americans are tough as nails, they've had to be, and the continental europeans get stuff done politically and the aussies will be there to KICK ASS. it will work, it has to! lie to me about it if you have to. whoo, gotta run. YOU CAN DO THIS. mostly because you HAVE TO. that's how it works.

no... I'm not scared about tomorrow

I'm not scared, just get a bit confused at times

i know just how you feel, it's just 4 or 5 weeks til i take my A2 exams and i have no idea what i want to do either. in year 11 i wanted to be a journalist, and now i've realised i only chose that because i was told i'm good at writing. consequencly, i chose both eng language and eng literature as 2 of my A-levels and in the last year i've started hating them and now i'm gonna be lucky to get a C in either. all i can say is just take a break and think for a second - what do you want to do? and if you still don't know then take a gap year of just going through jobs, choose ones you never thought about, and choose ones you have (eg the police thing, i've recently started considering that too! lol), if you choose the wrong job then atleast you still have plenty of time in your life to change your mind and try something else.

anyway, i've kinda written alot so if you don't want to read the above just remember this: do what you think you'll be happiest doing, not just what you think you'll be able to do

I try not to think about it afterall i could get run over by a bus tomorrow and die
however sometimes you have to make big decisions that will make or break your future... they scare me

No clue what I gonna be when Im older.

But.

I'll decide eventually.

There'll be something perfect for me so...

I'll wait and see.

It does scare me, i mean i dont want to get old and incapable but im also very excited about the future. I can't wait to get ou there and do all the things i've dreamt of doing since i was a little girl and then telling my children and grandchildren about it. Seeing them doing the exact same things as i did. It's exciting but really scary at the same time.

I can't wait for the future to become the present. I have my eyes on the horizon and I know where I'm headed.

i worry about it all the time
i would go in to the extent of it but i wouldnt want to sound like an emo fag

ya...my life is bad so i obviously think about that everyday from how its gonna b 2morow 2 how its gonna b when i grow up

Sometimes!
But I normaly try to live my day like if it was my last day! I can't live things for tomorrow! u could be losing a lot for doing that! I have my goals and I'm fighting for them! And I hope to be successful! future dependant on your own.

Yeah its scarrrry.

Yeah, I would say that the future scares me. I don`t have any ideà what I want to do with my life.

I never thought about my future since I went to university : here is the real choice: what kind of studies may I do (long or short) ? What should I study ? what willo I do after my studies?
Before that there's a compulsory path that you've just to follow: no problem !
So, don't worry about the future : it will come very fast and you'll be upset to understand that you wasted it thinking about that kind of stuff...

I-ve been through that too...just follow your dreams... think of what you really really want and what youre good at, computing doesnt nessesarily mean beign stuck in an office all day, bsides if you really like it youll enjoy it....but at the same time try different things, go to different places, meet different people, make mistakes, that way youll be learning more from life and youll see the world from a different perspective....and also...dont worry so much about it.....

Hah, I'm fucking terrified. It's like...I don't even know if I have a future or not. But it'll probably work out. I hope.

The future does not scare me as much as the past does...

Yeah it scares me, i'm just about to start College but i have no real idea of what courses i want to do and what i want to do when i'm older. Everyone else seems so organised and i'm scared i'll be stuck in a job i hate for years

The future scares me, well, or lack thereof. I'm constantly scared I'll die before I've truly achieved anything.

This thread reminds me of the monologue in Hamlet, where Hamlet is considering suicide...

I'm scared about getting older. I mean I don't mind getting older and being in my early 20's but what is there after that. I'm so worried that my life will be over after that and I'll end up in a shitty job which I hate and barely gets any money and I'll get married have kids, argue alot, get depressed, get divorsed, be very lonely, going in and out of relationships, and die when I'm 50. heh, its ages away I'm only 13 for gods sake but it seems like yesterday I was loads younger, I don't believe that in December I'll be 14, I can't believe that after the summer I'll be a Y9, it doesn't seem more than a term since I started secondry school and I don't want the years to trickle away But anyway I am only 13, I'll enjoy myself while I'm young.

uhm.. a little bit..

It does sometimes.

No
Whatever happens, is destined to happen.

yes. it does.

It doesnt scare me.
I say bring it on.
I dont know what to do with my life except have a laugh and live it.
I havent a clue what i'm going to do.. it'll be fun to find out.
So i look forward to the future, whatever happens.

actually the future scares the shit outa me.. im afraid im growing up to fast & missing out on stuff im suppose to do. im scared im gonna wake up one day & ill be old and gray. i know it may sound stupid but it scares me a lot..

yes...sometimes it scares me...specially when I see my plans aren't working.

no.
i make my future. why do I have to be scared?

Of course because I dunno who will be my life time lover. Scary thought.

kind of.
i don't want anything to change around my area. no fast food places shall mark my town.
plus: i don't want the teenies to come out again.

I hate thinking about life after school. I have no idea what it's going to be like.

yes soon i will be having my GCSE'S and i'm so scared. I have no idea how my future is going to turn out so it freaks me out.

i'm a little scared, but it's getting better...but, i'm still a little worried about where and if i will be able to get a good job when i graduate. but i know that whatever happens will be exactly what i'm supposed to be doing, otherwise something else would've happened in the first place, so it'll be alright.

im scared of the futuer. it a scary thing sometimes

Yeah, actually.

I want to a Marine, and a cop afterwords, but I don't know if I want to give up my music in doing so.

Yes.

I know what I want to do with my life, but it's just the matter of getting there that frightens me.

I worry about my future a lot.. Im afraid of never really succeeding in the real world or getting stuck with a low paying job.. I see all my friends with successful jobs making good money and doing what they love and im afraid that will never happen to me.. im also a bit concerened about the future of the world.. I know there are tons of rumors about when the world is going to end.. I just hope it doesnt happen during my lifetime.. I dont want to suffer... unless my fear comes true and I get a shitty job.. then let all hell break loose!

yeah, it does. i hate it when people ask me what i want to do after high school. it's really not something i want to think about right now. i soo don't want to grow up, i really miss being a happy little kid with no responsibilities.